Wondering if you are imaginings things or if your ex is sending you clear signs that they want you back? Are you scared to sound too pushy or needy? Perhaps you want your ex back but do not want to make the first move.
Well, we have all the signs you should be looking out for. If your ex keeps doing a lot more of these signs, then look for the right time to open the conversation about getting back together again, that’s if you want to.
If you decide to start over, here is a guide to help you rekindle love with an ex.
The best way is not to force yourself on your ex-partner but to proceed with caution and most importantly respect.
Before we talk about clear signs an ex still wants you back and loves you let’s talk about whether your ex is serious or not.
How do I know my ex is serious?
The first question you should be asking yourself is why did you think your ex is not serious when you were together? An ex who is serious does the following:
- They talk about commitment and show it is a way that you understand it.
- They are clear about where they want the relationship to go.
- A serious ex wants to build based on trust and respect.
- They are willing to meet your family.
- They are willing to meet on common ground on issues that the two of you do not share the same view.
- This ex wants to be exclusive more than anything.
- They check up on you regularly and are available when you need them.
- They are willing to communicate and build the relationship.
- This is an ex that understands your love language and goes the extra mile to show you love in a way that you want to be shown love.
- They recognize their role in the breakup and are willing to fix things.
Now that we have given you some tips to look out for let’s talk about all the clear signs an ex still wants you back and loves you.
Just remember if you are still not sure about your ex coming back into your life we have some things you can look out for even if it’s an ex from high school.
Clear signs an ex still wants you back and loves you.
How do you know if your ex is interested again?
These are some of the biggest signs that someone wants you back. Although this list is not exhaustive it contains the most common signs. Whether it’s an ex-boyfriend or an ex-girlfriend these signs go for both parties.
1. Unblocks you on social media and WhatsApp.
If your ex unblocks you there is a good chance that they want you back. In fact, that is the number one sign that the channels of communication are open. Once all channels are open anything is possible.
When an ex unblocks you, it means that there are strong feelings there and there is a chance to be on good terms.
If they have unblocked you on social media accounts, they are letting you know that you can shoot your shot. Whatever made them block you over the past relationship is now in the past and there is a chance to spark a romantic relationship.
The bottom line is that unblocking you is a good thing, and it gives you some room to break the no contact rule with caution.
This is the first one on the list of clear signs an ex still wants you back and loves you.
2. Calls you on a regular basis to ‘check-up’ on you.
This is when your ex constantly calls to check up on you and make sure you are okay. They claim to worry about you. Just in case you were not aware, ‘check up’ on you is code for ‘I miss you’ and ‘I wanted to hear your voice’.
If you receive these calls, it is a clear sign that your ex wants you back and is interested in starting a new relationship with you.
3. Does constant video calls.
This is a good sign that your ex wants you because video calls are sensitive and private. Video calls allow you to see each other physically. Pay attention to the dress code and facial language of your ex during video calls.
It will show you that this person wants to be with you and does not want to go for a long time without seeing you.
4. Shares their successes with you.
When your partner shares amazing things and milestones in life with you that is a subtle sign that they want you back. Sharing these things is a sign that they want you involved in their life and be involved in anything important to them.
This means that your ex wants to share good times with you. Why would they want to share good times with you if they really want nothing to do with you?
5. Buys you birthday gifts.
Buying gifts is a good idea but buying gifts for a former partner is a sign that they still care about you. Especially if your partner buys you a gift of something you have always wanted, it means they still have true feelings for you.
For someone to buy a gift it means they took the time to think and the energy to look for a gift and to buy it. The effort alone is a good reason to indicate that an ex wants you.
Even if an ex texts you a birthday message it means they are reaching out to you. Do not ignore that if you are interested as well.
6. Calls you when they are scared.
If your former partner calls you whenever they are scared or need help around the house, then you can be sure that you are still on top of their list. It may be a way to get your attention and to help cool down the negative emotions they are feeling.
These calls are a major sign that your ex is still interested and that your ex wants you back. There are different ways to calm down when one is scared but calling an ex means they still value you and may have romantic feelings for you.
Your ex still feels safe and secure around you hence the phone calls when they need you.
This sign on a long list of clear signs an ex still wants you back and loves you is important because it shows you that the emotional connection is still there between the two of you.
7. Asks for your advice about major life decisions.
If your ex still asks you for advice about big decisions it means they trust you and they believe you have their best interests at heart. They trust that you will help them make the right decision about important things in their life.
This is one of the subtle hints that they want you back and wish you could do life with them. Remember that your ex has a lot of close friends that they can ask for advice from, but they choose you.
8. Shares pictures of themself with you
If your partner loves sharing pictures of themselves with you, it’s an indication that they want you to still be involved in their life. They want you to compliment them and see how good they look.
These pictures are there to spark a new love interest. Taking nice pictures takes a lot of time and for them to go through that effort to take the best picture to send to you is something special.
This is one of the big signs that your ex is interested in trying again.
9. Enjoys reminiscing about the happy memories together.
If your ex-partner loves talking about old memories of the two of you together, that is a clear sign that they miss the old days and want them back. This is one of the most obvious signs that you can look for.
It is normal for human beings to wish for the good old days, but it is also a sign that someone may want you back.
10. Apologies for the role in the breakup.
Breakups are hard and usually, no one wants to admit they are wrong. So, if your ex starts to acknowledge the role they played in the breakup and take accountability you can be sure that they are thinking about fixing things.
The strong feelings of love will continue to grow with open communication and honest apologies. If an ex-girlfriend talks to you about the mistakes she made that she regrets take that as a sign that she wants to try again and build a good relationship from the lessons learnt.
11. Asking about current and potential lovers (relationship status)
If your ex starts asking questions about your current love life you can be sure they are fishing for information to see if you have moved on. If there is no new guy in your life then your ex-partner will smile, and you will see a glimmer of hope in their eyes.
12. Asks you for ‘just breakfast or lunch’.
Any ex-partner that asks you to join them for a meal is obviously asking you for some love back. This is one of the clearest signs that you need to see if your ex really wants you back.
During this innocent breakfast, brunch, lunch, or early dinner, watch your partner’s body language. Watch the sparkle come back into their eyes and watch them blush. These are all signs that they are still into you.
13. Invites you do to activities together.
If an ex keeps finding ways for you to spend time together by doing activities you both enjoy then that is an effort that you can interpret as a cry for love. Deliberately spending time with someone who you used to date is sending a particular sign towards a potential relationship.
As you do these activities watch your ex’s body language signs and you will see the message is loud and clear and the sign is as clear as day.
Remember to look for the little things that your ex-partner does to get your attention. Those actions speak louder than words.
14. Invites you to a trip.
Whether it’s a weekend away or it’s a staycation, this is a sign that your partner is interested in you. Trips are perfect for spending time alone time together.
So doing different things that include traveling brings people together and gives people an opportunity to bond. So, if you get such an invite know that it’s more than just an innocent trip.
Although this item on the list of clear signs an ex still wants you back and loves you is a little extreme, be on the lookout for it.
15. Loves to touch you (physical touch)
Physical touch is a way to build a strong connection. If an ex flirts with you by touching you then you know they definitely want you back, especially if your love language is physical touch.
How long do your hugs last when you meet? Do they seem to initiate touching during conversations? Well, that is a clear sign.
16. Relaxed body language around you
If an ex is relaxed and calm around you as if you are both still together then they may want you back. If they look free and not tense and angry in your company, then you can be sure that a lot of things can happen.
If an ex boyfriend or girlfriend does not want you anymore they will not want to be in your presence and they will avoid you at all costs. All these little things are clear signs that the tough times of missing each other are over and the two of you can consider trying again.
17. Laughs at your jokes, silliness, and craziness.
Another particular sign that you can look out for is if your ex laughs at your jokes and weird text messages. In such cases, the jokes and silliness may not be funny to other people but to your ex it is charming.
If your ex seems interested in your crazy ideas and all the silly things you have to say then you can take this as a sign that they still love you.
18. Asks mutual friends about you.
Any ex who still takes the time to ask mutual friends about how you are doing is definitely interested in you. If they didn’t care, they would not go through the trouble of asking around.
They may claim they are asking as a way to make small talk but trust me no one wants to make small talk about an ex whom they do not want anymore.
19. Constantly talks about a second chance.
Although some signs may be subtle this one is clearer and cannot be misinterpreted. Whenever an ex asks you if you think you guys could have worked out. Or perhaps they ask where you think you guys would be if you never broke up.
Maybe they keep asking if you are willing to try again. These questions and more have an undertone that implies your ex is thinking about a future with you in it.
20. Interacts with your social media posts.
This is a big one as well. This is when an ex loves your post or comments on your social media posts. Here you are sure that they are interested in your life and they still like you.
The love or like button is not as innocent as you think. Even if you post a status with a message and your ex responds, read between the lines. It’s all there.
21. Makes constant eye contact when together.
Whenever you are together does your ex look shy or initiate intense eye contact? Eye contact is a way to show someone that you see them, and you hear them.
A person who intends to build with you will make eye contact to show you that you have all their attention, and nothing will distract them.
Eye contact is one of the clear signs an ex still wants you back and loves you because the eyes are the window to the soul. Through the eyes, you can see how a person really thinks and feels.
22. Initiates conversations to build emotional connections.
Sometimes when people are dating they only focus on the physical connection and never take the time to build emotional connections. So, when someone wants you back they will take time to rebuild trust with you by building an emotional connection.
They will share with you their deep fears and feelings without hesitation.
Whenever you realize that conversations with an ex are more than just about the weather but are more emotional then you can be sure they are trying to build a strong foundation to date you again.
23. Wants to discuss your ‘unfinished business.’
Most human beings by nature love closure. So, your ex is not the first person to initiate contact because they want to talk about the unfinished business between the two of you.
If your ex reaches out and claims they want closure it may be an invitation to start over. Pay close attention to such requests.
Even relationship coaches do not advise you to get closure from an ex-partner. So, anyone who does this is looking for more than just closure. But be careful with this one. Read the room first.
24. Sends you funny memes always.
TikTok and the X platform have taken the world by storm. We find funny videos and want to share them with people we love and cherish.
So, if an ex keeps sending you funny videos or inspirational messages know that your ex still loves you. This is because when your ex finds something funny, they want you to laugh as well so they share it with you.
25. Drunk texts and calls declaring love.
People are said to be more honest when they are drunk. So, if you receive drunk calls or drunk texts from an ex just know that they are thinking about you, and you still mean a lot to them.
A lot of people will claim that they were just drunk and there is nothing more to it but trust me, those messages are honest.
They may be shy if you confront them directly about the messages when they sober up, but it’s the only way to get the truth out.
26. Constant flirting
This is a major sign that your ex wants you back. No one flirts with someone they no longer like or are not interested in.
Be aware of the conscious flirting. Many different people flirt differently but because this is an ex that you used to know you understand how they flirt.
Constant flirting is one of the clear signs an ex still wants you back and loves you, keep that in mind.
27. Asks you to meet their friends.
This one can be scary to do but many exes do it as a way to show you that their life is open and you are welcome to be part of it.
Meeting friends and family is not easy so take it as a loud message that your ex wants you back. Do not think that your ex is a being a good friend or a nice guy who wants you to meet different people.
They are sending a clear message to you.
28. Shares about their non-existent dating life
If an ex keeps asking about your relationship status and complaining about how lonely and single they are then you can be sure that your ex wants you back.
Why else would they tell you about their non-existed dating life? It is all an invitation for you to intervene.
29. Jokes about strong feelings and dating again.
These are those scenarios that your ex keeps asking you about. All those hypothetical situations are not always so hypothetical, it is wishful thinking about what your ex really wants.
Instead of laughing it off take it as a sign that your ex loves you and would love to have you back exclusively.
After all the laughing, explore the serious side of the joke.
30. Inspires and encourages you towards your goals.
The good news is that you have someone who really wants you to succeed but that’s not all. Motivation, when you need it the most and inspiration towards your goals, is one of the signs that your ex really cares about you.
Most people want their ex to succeed but not to a level where they will encourage and offer support. So, if your ex goes the extra mile, it’s a clear sign they want you back.
31. Interested in your ambitions.
You have dreams and ambitions which you share with those close to you. If your ex asks you about your ambitions and goals then they still care about you.
The fact that your ex is willing to ask you about your long-term, medium-term, and short-term goals means that they care about your future and where you are going to end up. This means your ex believes in you and would love to share that future with you.
Sometimes it’s hard to keep track of your friends’ goals and ambitions but if someone really loves you they will keep track of your ambitions. That’s why this is one of the clear signs an ex still wants you back and loves you.
32. Initiates long conversations through phone calls about various topics.
Instead of small talk, some exes will keep talking on the phone about various topics. It will almost happen seamlessly where the conversation flows from one topic to another.
These long conversations are a way to bond and spend time together. This is a sign that your ex is not interested in having conversations with other people except you. Perhaps your ex enjoys your conversations so much that they do not want to hang up.
Either way, they are really in love with you.
Sometimes it’s conversations about nothing serious like the weather or the sports results. The truth is that an ex will do anything to keep the conversation going.
33. Still in touch and on good terms with your family members and best friends
If your ex still talks to your family members and friends just know that they are not done with you or the possibility of a new relationship.
While your ex may not be bonding with you they are building a strong relationship with the family they will be marrying into, hopefully.
Before you know it, your whole family starts asking why the two of you broke up and why you cannot date again.
If your family loves your ex so will you, very soon.
34. Ending any rebound relationship.
If your ex ends all rebound relationships that they are involved in and they make a point to let you know then it’s a sign. Refusing to engage in rebound relationships is making sure that you realize that your ex only has eyes for you.
Your ex is giving you the green light to pursue them as they are single.
35. Talks about building healthy relationships.
This is when as ex starts to talk about healthy relationships that involve great communication, respect, unconditional love, and teamwork.
All this talk is to let you know that your ex is ready to be in a mature relationship with you. They are letting you know that they are growing as person and working towards being a better person.
36. Enjoys playing mind games.
This one is not common but some people enjoy mind games. If your ex is one of these people then watch out for these mind games.
An ex who wants you back will do very silly things to get your attention. Even playing hard to get is a sign they want you to pursue them and ask them out again.
37. Offers a lot of compliments.
Whether it’s compliments on social media posts or when you meet in person. These are signs they make an effort to notice the good things about you.
Compliments, well-wishes, and kind words are all clear signs an ex still wants you back and loves you. Pay close attention to these.
Final thoughts
Love knows no boundaries and it can be found twice with the same person. If an ex wants you back and shows any of these signs then be free to pursue love again.
Be respectful and read the room. You know your ex better than anyone else. I wish you all the best with getting back with an ex.
Remember if you do not want your ex back then let them know immediately. No need to give your ex any hope.
If you see any signs and are wondering about them, pop them in the comments section and our community of readers will help you understand whether they are clear signs an ex still wants you back and loves you.
